This is the time of year
when I explain to friends colleagues and co-workers
about my hobby of helping with weddings
Let’s address the evil reasons first:
*warning, this is going to make me look crazy
1. Jerry Seinfeld once said that public speaking was no.1 on the top fears list. Death was no.3! So people would rather be in the box than giving the eulogy!
When I was too junior to ‘be allowed’ to speak in front of people. This was a chance to do it on a time limit, in a high pressure situation and you are forced to make an emotional connection, as opposed to most public speaking opportunities. So many soft skills like project management, client service, vendor and peer professionalism – all business muscles get flexed and my role is to NOT be personal. I’m there to do business, not have a good time, so everyone else can.
2. I release my evil inner control freak – to do good! There are timelines, spreadsheets and it is all under my command. I have a binder and you don’t. All the beautiful people will do as I say! Ah-haha haa haa aha *ahem. In a business and personal world where I insist on letting go, being flexible and open to dialogue, here is one place where a benevolent dictatorship can actually do some good
3. I can right wrongs. No one is paying me, I can do whatever the hell I want. SO! I WILL tell your rude aunt that today, she can’t terrorize the bride by telling her “you look fat”. Like a linebacker I’m on her like white on rice baby. I can shut down drunk uncle charlie, vet those dumb best man speeches and other “grab the mike” fools who derail so many important days. The focus is on the couple, this day WILL be beautiful, I WILL create some awe and wonder in this world so help me God.
Ok ok, on to the good reasons:
1. It allows the couple and the wedding party/family to actually have a great day. This is a big day, a big investment, a big change. Everyone around you is emotionally compromised. Myself and my partner manage things from 5am to the afterparty and encourage everyone to send ugly things our way. Don’t ask your brother to handle the video camera, this is a big day for him too. Keeping things on time and on track is a lot of pressure, don’t put it on someone who wants to celebrate with you, a semi-pro ensures your guests have a great time but aren’t bored with 3 hours of inside joke speeches ( “member when we…” ). It is an honour to call out great people. The weddings I MC’d this summer were of two humble, kind, generous couples that would never let me praise them in public. The world needs more good people and on this day, they need to know, everyone in that room loves them and yes, they deserve it.
2. I’m not going to lie. I have a LOT of fun and learn so much ( we have learned Sikh, Punjabi, Chinese, Filipino and Seventh Day Adventist traditions – as the Globe and Mail recently said, cross-cultural learning is a business bonus ). I have also gotten so much closer with friends as a result of helping their big day be a perfect day. I have memories ( and war stories ) that will last forever. Most people will only be on the inside of a few weddings. I’m working on number 40.
3. I fall in love all over again every time. Again, I’m not going to lie, I am a ruthless romantic. My wife is a scientist who puts up with me and loves that I get it all out in the mosh-pit of love that is a wedding. Every ceremony I look at her, tears in my eyes and she rolls hers and thinks “here he goes again”. But with babies, dogs and cats, make no mistake it helps me remember why I got into this deal “to the death” ( what a non-english speaking officiant once called a wedding during a ceremony )
After all, I’m a man. What are my options?
Watching sports, drinking beer,
scratching myself while watching sports drinking beer?
I’ll stick with weddings.
The open bar doesn’t hurt …